REVIEW: Becoming the Pastor’s Wife by Beth Allison Barr

[I received a free electronic review copy of this book from Netgalley and Brazos Press in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.]

Summary and Review


The full title of this book is Becoming the Pastor’s Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman’s Path to Ministry. And I found it both fascinating and infurating. It was written by the author of The Making of Biblical Womanhood: How the Subjugation of Women Became Gospel Truth (a book I own but haven’t read yet.).  Beth Allison Barr is an historian and a professor of history at Baylor University.

The book explores the very real phenomenon of expectations at many churches that the pastor’s wife, simply by virtue of her marriage, is the “free labor” bonus to the hiring of her pastor husband. A default volunteer, or pianist, or Sunday School teacher – despite her gifts or call or vocation as an individual. Barr discusses this phenomenon – something she has experienced as a pastor’s wife and something spoken about frequently in certain Christian circles – while also examining 2000+ years of history of women’s roles to and in the Church.

This was a “preaching to the choir” sort of read for me as a woman in a denomination/”movement” that educates and ordains women for service to the Church. She didn’t need to sell me on the validity of women’s ordination, but she did show me mountains of evidence that the QUESTION of women’s ordination and leadership has not existed throughout the life of the Church.

While I was reading this I was also listening to the mini podcast series called All the Buried Women, hosted by the author, Beth Allison Barr, and Savannah Locke. The podcast focuses specifically on the Southern Baptist Convention (a significant player in the discussions in the book), and what the two women found while doing research at the SBC’s archive.  Again, a fascinating and infuriating look at history and harm to women done by the Church, specifically the SBC. The podcast is an excellent companion piece to this book (although the podcast does come with trigger warnings).

This book is thoroughly researched and historically anchored and shows centuries of evidence of women in leadership roles in the church based on their own gifts and calling, not only on marriage to a called or ordained man. I am not sure it would convince someone who is already entrenched in the idea that women should not be ordained, but it will provide evidence for those who are looking to back up the practice of ordaining women. This also could be a great resource for instructors who want to explore the issue with those studying for ministry.

Rating: ♥♥♥♥*

*♥♥♥♥ = Great! Might re-read.

 

BOOK NEWS: May 6, 2025

Happy May! Here are some of the books releasing this week.

Books for Kids


Bear Feels Sad – Bear feels lonely and sad when his friends are busy doing other things without him.
The Bigfoot Field Guide to Campers – A guide for Bigfoots to know what to do to avoid troublesome campers.
Bye Bye, Butterfly – A new picture book from the fantastic Ashley Spires – first in the Agent Binky: Pets of the Universe series – starring Binky the Space Cat from the delightful graphic novel series (Binky the Space Cat – ♥♥♥♥♥).
The Most Magnificent Team – Another Ashley Spires title out this week! Book 4 in the Most Magnificent series. Two girls try to build something together, discovering that they have very different approaches to their project.
We Are the Beatles – The latest in the Ordinary People Change the World series.

Books for Older Kids/ Teens/Young Adults


Entirely Emmie (Graphic Novel) – Book 9 in the Emmie & Friends series. Emmie’s class goes on a year-end camping trip where she’s paired with the last person she would have chosen.
A Field Guide to Broken Promises – Evie’s trying to redeem herself in her father’s eyes after ruining his big moment in cryptozoology, but that’s hard to do as the new kid at school who is failing math and dodging a bully. The cover to this is GORGEOUS, and I am intrigued to find out more about Evie’s story!
J vs. KKwame Alexander and Jerry Craft (New Kid – ♥♥♥♥) team up to bring readers a story about two rival storytellers and a big contest.
The Unlikely Intrusion of Adams Klein (Older Middle Grade) – Book 1 in the TimeFall Trilogy. Adams has been stashed in 2015 to protect him in the past from a killer in the future. And his one guiding rule is to not change history. But when he discovers something he can’t ignore, he and his friends will have to figure out how to protect the timeline.
Beyond They/Them: Twenty Influential Nonbinary and Gender-Diverse People You Should Know – A biography collection of nonbinary and gender-nonconforming folks.
Catching Cryptids – A STEM-based cryptozoology book.
Audre & Bash Are Just Friends – A high schooler stuck at home for the summer asks the new kid for help completing her “experience” bucket list so she can use the stories in the book she’s writing to help her get into Stanford.
The Rebel’s Guide to Pride  (LGBTQ+) – When the mayor cancels their Pride celebration, a newly out teen and his friends plan underground “Pride Speakeasies.”
The Thrashers – A school’s “elite” friend group gets some unwanted attention when a wannabe “Thrasher” is found dead.

Books for Adults


Big Bad Wool (Hardcover) – Book 2 in the Sheep Detective series. The sheep of Glenkill are on another case when a series of unnatural animal deaths escalates to a human death.
Drop Dead (Trade Paperback) – Rival journalists have three weeks at a sprawling estate to find out the recently-deceased owner’s big secret.
Dying to Read (Trade Paperback) – Book 5 in the Survivors’ Book Club mystery series. Rarity tries to help another book club member when her husband is accused of murder.
Friends with Benefits (Trade Paperback) – Best friends enter into a marriage of convenience when she needs insurance to purse a dream fellowship and he needs a second income to stay in his apartment.
Hounding a Killer (Trade Paperback) – Book 2 in the Bailey the Bloodhound mystery series. A children’s book author and her bloodhound get drawn into another mystery when a newcomer to their community first makes himself a nuisance and then disappears. This sounds like a great series!
Jilted (Trade Paperback) – A heartbroken, jilted bride who works at a bridal magazine thinks things can’t get more complicated but they do when she has an encounter with a man at a wedding who turns out to be her boss’s son.
Romantic Friction (Trade Paperback) – A bestselling romantasy author’s life and work is upended by an upstart author who confesses she writes her stories with AI and instead of being ostracized, she’s lauded for her “ingenuity.”
A Senior Citizen’s Guide to Life on the Run (Hardcover) – When her neighbor is found dead after an altercation – over pigeon poop of all things – Alice becomes a murder suspect.
Time Loops & Meet Cutes (Trade Paperback) – A workaholic is caught in a time loop where she meets a guy who could be the key to breaking the loop.
Turbulent Magic (ebook) – A former mage stuck as a dragon flight attendant uses his last magical gift – talking with dragons – and discovers the dragons are planning a rebellion against the airline. Quirky!

REVIEW: The Notorious Virtues by Alwyn Hamilton

[I received a free electronic review copy of this book from Netgalley and Viking Books for Young Readers in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.]

Summary


Honora Holtzfall is considered the “Holtzfall Heiress,” but that’s not really true. It was her mother who was the true Heiress. But now she’s dead, and it’s time to choose a new heiress – and Nora is just one of the contenders in the Veritaz. The imortal Huldrekall will determine which candidate is most worthy of the fortune – and magic – at stake.

Lotte is the surprise contender – the Holtzfall cousin no one knew existed. The one with the highly prized magical gift of mindreading. Raised as a “cursed” orphan by cruel caretakers. And perhaps hunted by her biological family to keep her from the Veritaz.

While this generation of Holtzfalls – five cousins in all – take their turn at the Veritaz, Nora can’t help digging into her mother’s death and a missing knight, her mother’s protector. But Nora’s quest for answers begins to unravel everything.

Review


This description barely scratches the surface of what is going on in this book. There’s  a fairy tale element to the world building – the huntsman ancester of the Holtzfalls who created the world they now live in, the monsters in the woods, villains who wear masks like woodland creatures and beasts. There’s a fascinating family – magical, rich, ruthless, full of secrets. And there’s a land on the brink of rebellion.

And I loved every bit of it.

This was incredible! I couldn’t get enough of it. For the entire last quarter I watched the percent read creep up, wondering if there was any way this story would wrap up by the end of the book. And while we got to a stopping point, this story is not finished by far! According to Goodreads this is the first in a trilogy.

The author did not disappoint with the twists and reveals and new questions all the way to the last page.  And I am not at all ready to be done with these characters and this world. I can’t wait to read more! This is my top book of 2025 so far. This will be the book I will shout about for months to come – the book I will pat fondly every time I see it in the bookstore. I bought my own copy immediately after finishing the ARC, and I will absolutely be reading it again soon. I can’t recommend this one highly enough. (Some language)

Rating: ♥♥♥♥♥+++

♥♥♥♥♥+++ = Best of the best